Just dance to the music, please (some random thoughts without a specific point)

I’ve noticed, particularly after my trip to Buenos Aires, where I had some of the most emotionally satisfying tandas of my life, how many people in certain places aren’t dancing to the music when they dance tango - in fact let’s take that deeper: they’re not hearing the music through their partners.   There’s also quite a lot of “look at me” leg-flailing going on that I can’t really understand.  Don’t get me wrong, there are some great performers out there with beautiful movements, large and small… but lately I’ve been seeing a trend of… I don’t know what it is.  A trend of dancers who are SO eager to show off their latest nuevo-whatever move, that they forget to actually dance with their partner.  There’s no soul.  And it seems like people are actually believing that this is Tango.  And unfortunately it gets carried on to the dance floor.  They just don’t connect. 

There are those who still seek that great connection and who simply love dancing, but there is a little bit of hesitation that lingers, understandably - it’ s not like this is an easy dance, especially if you’re the one navigating.

Tango has been called a three-minute love affair, but I’m not seeing people actually revel in this.  It doesn’t matter what style you dance, but if you’re not connecting with your partner, what’s the point?  It’s so wonderful when two people are in love with the dance and in love with each other - even if for just a few minutes, even if they never learn each other’s names.  What are people afraid of?  Come on folks, feel the love, open your heart and spill it into your embrace and your dance. 

And please don’t use the crowded dance floor as a stage.  Thank you.