Comments on: Tango Bliss is NOT… (or, how NOT to treat a woman at a milonga) http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/ Mon, 01 Dec 2008 22:54:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: miss tango http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-175 miss tango Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:25:20 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-175 Oh puh-leaz! Somebody is gonna get a spankin´when we get home ;) Oh puh-leaz! Somebody is gonna get a spankin´when we get home ;)

]]> By: Mr.T http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-176 Mr.T Tue, 30 Oct 2007 13:24:11 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-176 Oh... Thank you for this... You know like <a href="http://www.miguelangelpla.com/#114603429217496230" rel="nofollow">Miguel Angel Pla</a> says, I have few tango layers yet... Last Saturday I went to Sunderland Club with some friends and "dos de mis tres corazones". Unfortunately it happened to me when my dance partner tried to teach there. I know I'm the leader and it's always man's fault and women like to blablering, but DO IT when tanda is finished. Puh-leaz, thank you. Besos, Mr.T Oh… Thank you for this… You know like Miguel Angel Pla says, I have few tango layers yet…
Last Saturday I went to Sunderland Club with some friends and “dos de mis tres corazones”. Unfortunately it happened to me when my dance partner tried to teach there. I know I’m the leader and it’s always man’s fault and women like to blablering, but DO IT when tanda is finished. Puh-leaz, thank you. Besos, Mr.T

]]> By: caroline http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-174 caroline Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:03:24 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-174 Oh, that's happened to me a few times. I actually cried while driving home after the milonga. Now I know that it's not me that was lacking, it was them being rude. Now I avoid them and reject their requests for a dance, politely but curtly. Oh, that’s happened to me a few times. I actually cried while driving home after the milonga. Now I know that it’s not me that was lacking, it was them being rude. Now I avoid them and reject their requests for a dance, politely but curtly.

]]> By: tinatangos http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-172 tinatangos Mon, 25 Jun 2007 17:30:01 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-172 Good point Miss Tango! Okay, so all you dancers out there, men and women, BE NICE to each other. Got that? ;-) Good point Miss Tango! Okay, so all you dancers out there, men and women, BE NICE to each other. Got that? ;-)

]]> By: miss tango http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-171 miss tango Mon, 25 Jun 2007 10:50:06 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-171 Dios mio.....but it goes both ways, apparently women can be very critical and verbally abusive on the dance floor as well. Glad you ended the tanda with dignity and grace. Dios mio…..but it goes both ways, apparently women can be very critical and verbally abusive on the dance floor as well.

Glad you ended the tanda with dignity and grace.

]]> By: Vinca http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-173 Vinca Sun, 24 Jun 2007 23:24:26 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-173 Amen! I am having a similar experience as a tango beginner but not a beginner to partnered dancing, (meaning I do know how to follow and have a clue about frame). I thought I was the only one who thought this was insufferable. Recently, I had someone, (second practica I danced with him - big mistake) say, after not even 2 steps, " Can I say something?" He critiqued me the first time we danced together and he has a lot to learn about leading. This guy did not even give me or himself one song to get a feel for his partner. Just shut up and lead. If he can't tell me what he wants me to do with his lead, then he needs to work on that. This time I told him "no." And afterward told him I am here to be taught by the instructor, and dance with my partners. It is obnoxious to be "taught" by someone who is not doing what they need to work on. Just because a person has the title of instructor apparently doesn't mean they know any better either. Thanks for your insight. It is about more than just the dance. It's not an isolated act. It is the connection, the vulnerability , a mini relationship, good development for tuning into a woman in general, and that seems to be what some men need to learn. And good practice for us women to let our guard down as well. Your blog is much appreciated. Amen! I am having a similar experience as a tango beginner but not a beginner to partnered dancing, (meaning I do know how to follow and have a clue about frame). I thought I was the only one who thought this was insufferable. Recently, I had someone, (second practica I danced with him - big mistake) say, after not even 2 steps, ” Can I say something?” He critiqued me the first time we danced together and he has a lot to learn about leading. This guy did not even give me or himself one song to get a feel for his partner. Just shut up and lead. If he can’t tell me what he wants me to do with his lead, then he needs to work on that. This time I told him “no.” And afterward told him I am here to be taught by the instructor, and dance with my partners.
It is obnoxious to be “taught” by someone who is not doing what they need to work on. Just because a person has the title of instructor apparently doesn’t mean they know any better either.

Thanks for your insight. It is about more than just the dance. It’s not an isolated act. It is the connection, the vulnerability , a mini relationship, good development for tuning into a woman in general, and that seems to be what some men need to learn. And good practice for us women to let our guard down as well. Your blog is much appreciated.

]]> By: Tanguera http://tinatangos.com/blog/etiquette-at-milongas/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-170 Tanguera Sun, 24 Jun 2007 15:17:11 +0000 http://tinatangos.wordpress.com/2007/06/24/tango-bliss-is-not-or-how-not-to-treat-a-woman-at-a-milonga/#comment-170 I'm really sorry you found this as^&^*&*le in the milonga. You did the right thing... and possibly you could have gone further out. I absolutely agree with you. And in the end, all the stupidity that came out of his mind only reflects his own insecurities and the huge loser he is. Good that you got rid of him earlier rather than later. He did not deserve better. Tanguera I’m really sorry you found this as^&^*&*le in the milonga. You did the right thing… and possibly you could have gone further out. I absolutely agree with you. And in the end, all the stupidity that came out of his mind only reflects his own insecurities and the huge loser he is. Good that you got rid of him earlier rather than later. He did not deserve better.

Tanguera

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