It’s very, very different for me to be here.
In Italy, I on my own, spoke the language fluently, had my own friends, my own schedule. I was independent.
In Argentina, I don’t have any of that. It can be challenging for both me and Mi Amor. He’s from here, has has his childhood friends, family, cell phone, schedule, and of course he speaks the language. On top of that now, he has me, depending on him since I don’t know the city very well, and my Spanish is limited. I don’t have a schedule or childhood friends, and feel a little timid about just getting out there by myself. Everything I do, I do with him because the dynamic feels like I need him there in order to be able to do stuff. Which is surprising since I’ve always been a lone traveler. I’ve done Israel alone, so you think I could do Buenos Aires on my own. But it’s different, as he is a huge part of why I came here. (Tango being the other huge reason).
It’s just the way it is - he’s already been here a few months and isn’t on a tourist schedule, whereas I am, so it’s a little hard for the two of us to make our desires coincide (he wants to relax with his family and he has to arrange all kinds of things from here for his graduate schooling in Seattle while I want to see everything there is to see and take a million pictures and try on lots of tango shoes). Normally in this case I’d just go do something fun on my own and meet up with him later, but at this point in my life that’s hard. I’ve just spent the past half year adapting to life in Italy, and now all of a sudden I’m in South America. It’s hard for me to get totally motivated to get out there, because I’m trying to take in what I’ve just done.
My goal this week is to go do something by myself… the way Tina would.
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Be the Bold person I believe u are. just venture off and find a places to visit. Bring your guide book and be a COMPLETE tourist!!! you only live once! ciao bella!
After the first few days, this is very normal. Just think of it this way, there are so many people who would love to be in your shoes ( no pun intended- well ok maybe a little:)) You will not get lost in BA. Maybe you should invest in a cell phone if you do not have one already, which can be your security check, if you get lost you can call tu Amor:) Go out there, sit at a beautiful cafe.. Sometimes being alone helps a lot. Breath in the atmosphere. Enjoy!
Hey, I spent every day on my own pretty much because my friends were busy with work and other things. I’m deaf and don’t speak Spanish, it was a bit unnerving to get there and walk around and shop on my own at first but once I realized that I was totally fine on my own, then it was easy after that. Get that tango map and start figuring out how to get to the shoe stores on your own, you’ll be fine, I promise. The staff at Neo Tango ain’t the friendlist but the ones at Artesenal on Riobamba, they are quite nice. So go there first to get your independent toes wet. Then go for a Helados on Corrientes and Callao to celebrate. Have fun!
Oh, I hear you sister. That’s an easy slip to make, even if you haven’t packed up and moved halfway around the world. This is what happens (I’d like to think) to every new couple - at least I know it happened to us, and I didn’t move to a new continent, I just moved across town. I know that you want to spend every moment with him, but you’re a bold adventurous spirit and that’s what he fell in love with, and that’s who you are when you’re truly happy and that’s who you must be.
You can move to the moon for a man if that’s what it takes, but don’t you ever, EVER, change who you are.
Here’s your horoscope for March from http://www.michaellutin.com
VIRGO
Although you get antsy when you have to run on emotion, it is often wise to shut off your mind, open your heart and surrender to the music. You think you can still be rational? Sorry, Pal. Letting yourself be guided now won’t kill you. On the contrary, it’s the medicine for what ails you.
AND his “Next Week in Review for Virgos”
VIRGO
3-12/III
At least you know now how complicated it is when you think you want to be alone because of your work but then when you are alone you feel so lonely unless you have people supporting you from a distance of course because it is still hard for you to be close when you worry about being taken over by other people’s needs, but at least you know now you can’t live without them, needs and all.
From mom:
Have a great time honey and take it all in. You have been independent since you were 3 years old and I don’t think that is going to change now, but I believe you can still be independent and be in a love relationship and make it stronger. Love ya…mom
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